- A person’s stress is connected to the stress of the people in their social circle.
- The link is stronger when the people in a social circle have comparable levels of stress to each other.
- This may happen because people base conclusions on others’ reactions and because they try to copy others to fit in.
Do you know what leads you to feel stress? Odds are that at least one cause (and probably more than one) entered your mind. But if I were to ask you about the stress that the people in your social world feel, would it occur to you as a factor in your own stress? Perhaps it would, depending on your circumstances. But probably not. And yet, this is exactly what a group of researchers decided to investigate. They cited research that stress is conveyed between two people or among a more limited group of folks.
In this longitudinal study, they tracked the stress of a large group of graduate students over the course of six months. The investigators measured various aspects of people’s lives, including their degree of stress along with three different personality attributes. Specifically, they asked about people’s neuroticism (a tendency to feel more upset and have more fluctuations in how they feel), their conscientiousness (an inclination to engage in self-control and careful consideration, and to think ahead and come up with solutions to problems), and their locus of control (how much someone views themselves or events around them as determining the result of a situation).
The researchers found that the stress an individual experienced was connected to the extent of stress in their social world, and that certain factors appeared to play a role. First, they found that a person’s stress was more apt to fall in line with the stress of those in their social sphere when the stress among the people in that sphere was comparable (as opposed to more diverse). Second, they found that there was a weaker tie between a person’s stress and the magnitude of stress in their social life if that person had a less neuroticism, more conscientiousness, and an internal locus of control (a tendency to see themselves as able to impact what happens in a situation).
Although the research team noted that it’s not entirely clear why the stress in a person’s social world is linked to their own stress, they highlighted two possibilities. One is that humans tend to draw from others’ reactions to try to grasp a situation better. Another is that we tend to observe how other people are responding to help us calibrate the most suitable way of reacting so we can socially fit in. As the researchers rightly pointed out, the study merits being repeated to understand whether the results apply to different groups of people, such as individuals who are older (the average age in this study was 28).
Despite the lingering questions this study couldn’t address, the researchers noted that people who feel more stress are likely to connect with others who have the same stress level, and then they feel more stress as they socially engage with those who are also feeling a lot of stress. Accordingly, the research team mentioned the potential value of future programs that could help people learn new coping strategies to reduce the odds of stress being transferred, as well as programs that could enable people with different stress levels to connect.
Having said that, they correctly stated that this would depend on whether their findings hold true for more groups of people. In the meantime, is there any way to implement the results from this study in some way? One possibility might be to think about the stress of the people around you if you’re feeling a lot of stress, and to consider whether this might be playing a role (even a small one) in how you're feeling. If you’re feeling a lot of stress, another potential step may be to try to cultivate relationships with people who have diverse stress levels. And finally, you might consider reaching out to a therapist for additional support in a setting that's focused on your stress and your needs. Ultimately, no matter what you do, by even thinking about how to address your stress, you’re taking a meaningful step in giving yourself the time and attention you deserve.
Li, S., Krackhardt, D., & Niezink, N. M. D. (2023, January 12). Do your friends stress you out? A field study of the spread of stress through a community network. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. Advance online publication. https://dx.doi.org/10.1037/pspi0000415
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