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Attachment
Why Anxious Attachment Keeps You Coming Back for More

Hal Shorey Ph.D. on November 16, 2023

Attachment styles keep people bonded to each other. Sometimes the bond is too strong and makes us "preoccupied" with others. Here's how to let relationships work better.

Attachment styles keep people bonded to each other. Sometimes the bond is too strong and makes us "preoccupied" with others. Here's how to let relationships work better.

Attachment
Relationship Challenges: Is It Your Problem or Theirs?

Hal Shorey Ph.D. on October 16, 2023

A major challenge in romance is knowing when to make adjustments within yourself vs. when to set boundaries and ask for change in others. Here are six steps to guide you.

A major challenge in romance is knowing when to make adjustments within yourself vs. when to set boundaries and ask for change in others. Here are six steps to guide you.

Forgiveness
Why Love Really Does Mean Never Saying “I’m Sorry”

Hal Shorey Ph.D. on July 14, 2023

When it comes to apologies, owning your own behavior and committing to change is much more effective than simply saying, “I’m sorry.” Find out how to make an apology right.

When it comes to apologies, owning your own behavior and committing to change is much more effective than simply saying, “I’m sorry.” Find out how to make an apology right.

Relationships
How Protesting Ruins Relationships

Hal Shorey Ph.D. on June 14, 2023

Berating someone who is falling short never results in getting you the love you want. But you can find better ways to get your needs met. These six steps will give you the answer.

Berating someone who is falling short never results in getting you the love you want. But you can find better ways to get your needs met. These six steps will give you the answer.

Mating
How to Date Someone Who Is Seeing Other People

Hal Shorey Ph.D. on May 16, 2023

You don’t have to take yourself out of the running if your new romantic interest is seeing other people. Learn how to keep yourself protected while staying engaged.

You don’t have to take yourself out of the running if your new romantic interest is seeing other people. Learn how to keep yourself protected while staying engaged.

Memory
Letting Go of the Past

Hal Shorey Ph.D. on April 14, 2023

People don't have to keep repeating the same harmful patterns. Here's how they can work with their emotional memories to create a happier life experience.

People don't have to keep repeating the same harmful patterns. Here's how they can work with their emotional memories to create a happier life experience.

Mating
Anxiously Attached and Online Dating

Hal Shorey Ph.D. on March 14, 2023

Single people with anxious attachment styles tend to use dating apps the most but like them the least. Find out why and explore new ways to get offline to meet people.

Single people with anxious attachment styles tend to use dating apps the most but like them the least. Find out why and explore new ways to get offline to meet people.

Attachment
Can Others Tell Your Attachment Style in Just One Meeting?

Hal Shorey Ph.D. on February 14, 2023

New research shows that people can tell if someone has an anxious attachment style after just one short meeting. Learn to increase your chances by adopting a "secure" mindset.

New research shows that people can tell if someone has an anxious attachment style after just one short meeting. Learn to increase your chances by adopting a "secure" mindset.

Relationships
Anxiously Attached and Finding the Love You Want

Hal Shorey Ph.D. on January 13, 2023

If you are anxiously attached, you will likely try to find love from more unavailable others. But you can learn to heal yourself and find the love you want. Here's how.

If you are anxiously attached, you will likely try to find love from more unavailable others. But you can learn to heal yourself and find the love you want. Here's how.

Caregiving
How to Escape Your Role in Your Family

Hal Shorey Ph.D. on December 20, 2022

You deserve to feel happy visiting friends and family over the holidays. Don’t let being stuck in that old family role stop you. You can change it now with these six simple steps.

You deserve to feel happy visiting friends and family over the holidays. Don’t let being stuck in that old family role stop you. You can change it now with these six simple steps.

Anger
How to Deal With Anger in Relationships

Hal Shorey Ph.D. on November 14, 2022

People get frustrated and angry when they aren't getting the love or connection they want. But getting angry never makes people want to love or connect with you. Learn a better way

People get frustrated and angry when they aren't getting the love or connection they want. But getting angry never makes people want to love or connect with you. Learn a better way

Attachment
Preoccupied Attachment and Emotional Circuit Breakers

Hal Shorey Ph.D. on October 12, 2022

Relationships can be difficult for those with preoccupied attachment styles because of all the unknowns and ambiguity. If only they had emotional circuit breakers!

Relationships can be difficult for those with preoccupied attachment styles because of all the unknowns and ambiguity. If only they had emotional circuit breakers!

Attachment
8 Keys to Finding a Relationship That's Right for You

Hal Shorey Ph.D. on September 12, 2022

Are you feeling the pressure of having to choose whether to move forward with or end a relationship? Few people make their choice based on sound logic...but you can learn how.

Are you feeling the pressure of having to choose whether to move forward with or end a relationship? Few people make their choice based on sound logic...but you can learn how.

Anxiety
Do Nice Guys Really End Up Alone?

Hal Shorey Ph.D. on August 11, 2022

Sometimes, nice people can seem boring. They don't make other people anxious, but people often mistake anxiety for attraction: If there is no anxiety, they're not interested.

Sometimes, nice people can seem boring. They don't make other people anxious, but people often mistake anxiety for attraction: If there is no anxiety, they're not interested.

Attachment
Attachment, Jealousy, and Excessive Reassurance Seeking

Hal Shorey Ph.D. on July 12, 2022

Are you or your romantic partner insecure and engaged in excessive reassurance seeking? Find out why and get insights on how to move forward without damaging your relationship.

Are you or your romantic partner insecure and engaged in excessive reassurance seeking? Find out why and get insights on how to move forward without damaging your relationship.

Attachment
Am I Crazy or Being Led On?

Hal Shorey Ph.D. on May 10, 2022

Telling the difference between when you are being put on a shelf or rejected and when you are overreacting can be difficult. Knowing your attachment style can guide you.

Telling the difference between when you are being put on a shelf or rejected and when you are overreacting can be difficult. Knowing your attachment style can guide you.

Embarrassment
How to Stop Living with Shame

Hal Shorey Ph.D. on April 11, 2022

Living with pervasive shame amounts to "missing the mark" or "sinning." Instead, learn to own your behavior and commit to accurate self-evaluation and positive change.

Living with pervasive shame amounts to "missing the mark" or "sinning." Instead, learn to own your behavior and commit to accurate self-evaluation and positive change.