The Age of Overindulgence

Relationships

Can You Love Your Children Too Much?

David J Bredehoft Ph.D. on January 7, 2023

Children need nurture to flourish, but too much can become overindulgence. Overnurturing keeps children from becoming successful and self-confident.

Children need nurture to flourish, but too much can become overindulgence. Overnurturing keeps children from becoming successful and self-confident.

Parenting

The Good Parent's Toolbox

David J Bredehoft Ph.D. on December 1, 2022

The next time you travel down the parenting highway and have a "parenting fender-bender," reach for your good parent toolbox and grab the right tool for the job.

The next time you travel down the parenting highway and have a "parenting fender-bender," reach for your good parent toolbox and grab the right tool for the job.

Parenting

Does Any Good Come From Spanking Children?

David J Bredehoft Ph.D. on November 15, 2022

Sixty-nine longitudinal studies found no associations with positive outcomes from spanking. Despite many parents' beliefs, no good comes from spanking children.

Sixty-nine longitudinal studies found no associations with positive outcomes from spanking. Despite many parents' beliefs, no good comes from spanking children.

Child Development

How Schools and Teachers Should React to Entitled Children

David J Bredehoft Ph.D. on October 2, 2022

Overindulged students and their parents can prove to be very challenging for teachers.

Overindulged students and their parents can prove to be very challenging for teachers.

Child Development

When Overindulged Children Come to School

David J Bredehoft Ph.D. on September 7, 2022

If overindulgence has a negative impact on children and can affect the classroom, teachers need the ability to make effective and positive changes to deal with it.

If overindulgence has a negative impact on children and can affect the classroom, teachers need the ability to make effective and positive changes to deal with it.

Child Development

Why Do Parents Overindulge Their Children?

David J Bredehoft Ph.D. on August 17, 2022

Parents want the best for their children, but some overindulge. We found that overindulgence was related to specific parental issues, not to the children’s welfare.

Parents want the best for their children, but some overindulge. We found that overindulgence was related to specific parental issues, not to the children’s welfare.

Attention

How to Become Your Child's Reality Therapist

David J Bredehoft Ph.D. on July 31, 2022

If you let your child own the problem then it is your job to set the stage for her or him to be able to solve it. The simple steps of reality therapy can help.

If you let your child own the problem then it is your job to set the stage for her or him to be able to solve it. The simple steps of reality therapy can help.

Child Development

Which Wolf Are You Feeding: the Evil or the Good One?

David J Bredehoft Ph.D. on May 16, 2022

One wolf is darkness and despair. The other is light and hope. Which wolf wins? The one you feed.

One wolf is darkness and despair. The other is light and hope. Which wolf wins? The one you feed.

Suicide

How to Develop a Suicide Intervention Plan

David J Bredehoft Ph.D. on May 2, 2022

If you think someone is contemplating suicide, do you know what to do? This intervention plan can help you save someone's life.

If you think someone is contemplating suicide, do you know what to do? This intervention plan can help you save someone's life.

Parenting

16 Ways Overindulging Your Child Can Harm Them in the Future

David J Bredehoft Ph.D. on April 22, 2022

#7: Lacking gratitude.

#7: Lacking gratitude.

Education

Links Between Dysfunctional Beliefs and Overindulgence

David J Bredehoft Ph.D. on March 5, 2022

Overindulgence has harmful effects. Research suggests that parents are the ones who overindulge and that the behavior is rooted in the parent's past experiences.

Overindulgence has harmful effects. Research suggests that parents are the ones who overindulge and that the behavior is rooted in the parent's past experiences.

Child Development

The Art of Childrearing: Making Rules They Will Follow

David J Bredehoft Ph.D. on January 31, 2022

Parents too soft on structure sometimes flip to the other side of the continuum, thinking the answer lies in being hard, rigid, or inflexible. Rigid is not the answer either.

Parents too soft on structure sometimes flip to the other side of the continuum, thinking the answer lies in being hard, rigid, or inflexible. Rigid is not the answer either.

Motivation

Should We Give Every Child a Trophy?

David J Bredehoft Ph.D. on January 7, 2022

What happens to children when they get an unearned trophy?

What happens to children when they get an unearned trophy?

Parenting

Are You a Best-Friend Parent?

David J Bredehoft Ph.D. on December 1, 2021

Can parents be friends with their children? Does it represent childhood overindulgence?

Can parents be friends with their children? Does it represent childhood overindulgence?

Parenting

Do You Parent Like a Vending Machine or a Slot Machine?

David J Bredehoft Ph.D. on November 4, 2021

Can and should parents learn from machines? Let’s consider two commonplace machines: a vending machine and a slot machine. What can they teach us about parenting?

Can and should parents learn from machines? Let’s consider two commonplace machines: a vending machine and a slot machine. What can they teach us about parenting?

Parenting

Best Parental Practices for Eliminating the Nag Factor

David J Bredehoft Ph.D. on October 23, 2021

Does your child nag you when you go shopping? Do your children beg you to do things they shouldn't be doing? Do you give in to them? You need help to eliminate the nag factor.

Does your child nag you when you go shopping? Do your children beg you to do things they shouldn't be doing? Do you give in to them? You need help to eliminate the nag factor.

Adolescence

What Is The Nag Factor?

David J Bredehoft Ph.D. on October 15, 2021

Actions that children engage in to make their parents buy something are a universal dilemma all parents have to deal with. Teen social media influencers make it worse.

Actions that children engage in to make their parents buy something are a universal dilemma all parents have to deal with. Teen social media influencers make it worse.

Parenting

Parents: Rediscover The Power of "No"

David J Bredehoft Ph.D. on September 8, 2021

Today's parents say they can't say no to their children. Their children are bombarded with thousands of "buy" messages prompting demand after demand. Take back your Power of NO!

Today's parents say they can't say no to their children. Their children are bombarded with thousands of "buy" messages prompting demand after demand. Take back your Power of NO!

Addiction

How Parental Substance Abuse Affects Children

David J Bredehoft Ph.D. on August 5, 2021

Children who grow up with an addicted parent often experience abuse, neglect, and even overindulgence, and they often become parentified.

Children who grow up with an addicted parent often experience abuse, neglect, and even overindulgence, and they often become parentified.

Child Development

Pointing Out Overindulgence to Someone You Care About

David J Bredehoft Ph.D. on July 12, 2021

Are you concerned that a parent you know and love is overindulging their children? How do you bring up this thorny issue without alienating them? These strategies can help.

Are you concerned that a parent you know and love is overindulging their children? How do you bring up this thorny issue without alienating them? These strategies can help.