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Rediscovering Love

How to identify behaviors that undermine love—and how to avoid drifting apart

Relationships
Why Suppressed Emotions Can Erupt in a Crisis

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on November 30, 2023

Buried feelings can erupt under pressure, and instead of behaving as one generally would, long-time negative feelings may lead them to lash out instead.

Buried feelings can erupt under pressure, and instead of behaving as one generally would, long-time negative feelings may lead them to lash out instead.

Relationships
Too Busy for Love

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on November 14, 2023

There is a way that long-lasting and deep love relationships can develop that also allows for self-serving priorities to mesh with a full commitment to an intimate partner.

There is a way that long-lasting and deep love relationships can develop that also allows for self-serving priorities to mesh with a full commitment to an intimate partner.

Relationships
Partners Who Seduce and Abandon

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on October 25, 2023

I have seen the most pain, disillusionment, and torture in those who have fallen in love with people who seduce, capture, and then leave without a trace.

I have seen the most pain, disillusionment, and torture in those who have fallen in love with people who seduce, capture, and then leave without a trace.

Relationships
10 Warning Signs of Dying Intimacy

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on October 13, 2023

Relationship intimacy is a haven of emotional security that committed partners share only with each other. This is how they can defend that space.

Relationship intimacy is a haven of emotional security that committed partners share only with each other. This is how they can defend that space.

Relationships
Are You Afraid of Love?

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on September 28, 2023

8 common underlying fears that can keep someone from successfully creating a long-lasting romantic relationship.

8 common underlying fears that can keep someone from successfully creating a long-lasting romantic relationship.

Mating
Too Many Choices: Online Dating Overload

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on August 15, 2023

It is virtually only possible for any busy person to take the hours needed weekly to sort through all the online dating profiles with a full-time assistant.

It is virtually only possible for any busy person to take the hours needed weekly to sort through all the online dating profiles with a full-time assistant.

Relationships
8 Dangers of Empty Threats in a Relationship

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on July 27, 2023

Of all the negative patterns couples demonstrate, among the most destructive is the use of empty threats meant in the heat of the moment but never carried out.

Of all the negative patterns couples demonstrate, among the most destructive is the use of empty threats meant in the heat of the moment but never carried out.

Relationships
All My Relationships Fail

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on June 30, 2023

The following seven unconscious trauma-driven behaviors that predict relationship failure tend to come up the most often in therapy.

The following seven unconscious trauma-driven behaviors that predict relationship failure tend to come up the most often in therapy.

Relationships
10 Behaviors That Can Push People Away

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on February 28, 2023

There are often underlying personality characteristics and behaviors that are likely to push a partner away, even when more obvious reasons don’t exist.

There are often underlying personality characteristics and behaviors that are likely to push a partner away, even when more obvious reasons don’t exist.