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Living with Emotional Intensity

From healing to thriving, the misfit’s way.

Trauma
Structural Dissociation and Hiding Behind "'Normal"

Imi Lo on November 26, 2023

Trauma splitting can be a result of narcissistic abuse. A vulnerable child copes by internally dividing the "normal self" shown to the world and the "traumatized self."

Trauma splitting can be a result of narcissistic abuse. A vulnerable child copes by internally dividing the "normal self" shown to the world and the "traumatized self."

Projection
Projective Identification: The Silent Narcissistic Abuse

Imi Lo on November 14, 2023

Parental projective identification is enduring lifelong gaslighting, with a constant projection of unresolved emotions, fostering confusion and self-doubt.

Parental projective identification is enduring lifelong gaslighting, with a constant projection of unresolved emotions, fostering confusion and self-doubt.

Borderline Personality Disorder
The Challenge of Having a Mother With BPD

Imi Lo on August 10, 2023

The emotional scars of growing up with a mother with BPD may include the shame of being "too much," boundary issues, and the fear of becoming like her.

The emotional scars of growing up with a mother with BPD may include the shame of being "too much," boundary issues, and the fear of becoming like her.

Fear
Overcoming the Fear of Becoming Your Parents

Imi Lo on May 16, 2023

There is a fear that often goes unspoken, lurking in the shadows of our minds. It is the fear that we will one day become like those who inflicted harm upon us—our parents.

There is a fear that often goes unspoken, lurking in the shadows of our minds. It is the fear that we will one day become like those who inflicted harm upon us—our parents.

Therapy
Why Silicon Valley Needs Therapy

Imi Lo on April 26, 2023

Silicon Valley's high-pressure work culture can harm mental health. Lack of diversity, low EQ, and the challenges of giftedness add to the problem.

Silicon Valley's high-pressure work culture can harm mental health. Lack of diversity, low EQ, and the challenges of giftedness add to the problem.

Misophonia
Unmasking Misophonia: An Invisible Challenge

Imi Lo on December 17, 2022

Misophonia, also known as "sound phobia," is a neurological condition characterized by a strong emotional reaction to everyday sounds. Do you have misophonia?

Misophonia, also known as "sound phobia," is a neurological condition characterized by a strong emotional reaction to everyday sounds. Do you have misophonia?

Autism
Finding Your Way Through Neurodiversity

Imi Lo on December 3, 2022

You might have always felt different without knowing why. You might be called “weird” or “too much” for others. The spectrum of autism may explain some of your challenges.

You might have always felt different without knowing why. You might be called “weird” or “too much” for others. The spectrum of autism may explain some of your challenges.

Trauma
4 Ways to Break Free From Abusive Parents

Imi Lo on October 15, 2022

It often takes years and many attempts before we freeing ourselves from repetition compulsion, but it is possible with the right mindset shifts.

It often takes years and many attempts before we freeing ourselves from repetition compulsion, but it is possible with the right mindset shifts.

Personality
The Potential Upsides to Having a Partner with Borderline

Imi Lo on August 12, 2022

People with borderline are frequently chastised, marginalized, and stigmatized, yet the truth is they deserve love and compassion just as much as anyone else.

People with borderline are frequently chastised, marginalized, and stigmatized, yet the truth is they deserve love and compassion just as much as anyone else.

Anxiety
Do You Let Yourself Take Up Space?

Imi Lo on July 26, 2022

Do you fear silence? Do you avoid talking about yourself? Do you always feel the need to be productive? Learning how to take up space could change your life.

Do you fear silence? Do you avoid talking about yourself? Do you always feel the need to be productive? Learning how to take up space could change your life.

Narcissism
3 Ways Narcissistic Parents Can Abuse Children

Imi Lo on May 4, 2022

Covert narcissistic parents are much harder to spot. On the surface, they often appear to be very loving and charming, but they may harbour deep-seated feelings of jealousy.

Covert narcissistic parents are much harder to spot. On the surface, they often appear to be very loving and charming, but they may harbour deep-seated feelings of jealousy.

Intelligence
9 Career Challenges Faced by Gifted Adults

Imi Lo on April 25, 2022

Gifted individuals often face unique challenges in their career paths. They may also find it challenging to connect with most people or be adequately stimulated.

Gifted individuals often face unique challenges in their career paths. They may also find it challenging to connect with most people or be adequately stimulated.

Relationships
Are You Having an Existential Crisis?

Imi Lo on April 21, 2022

Are you questioning the meaning of your life or feel numb, empty, and unfulfilled? How to cope when you feel that everything you have done is meaningless.

Are you questioning the meaning of your life or feel numb, empty, and unfulfilled? How to cope when you feel that everything you have done is meaningless.