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Aging

Here’s How to Stay Happier as You Get Older

Loren Soeiro, Ph.D. ABPP on May 24, 2023

It's too easy to look ahead to growing old with apprehension or even a sense of deep loss. A new perspective may help you stay healthy as you age.

It's too easy to look ahead to growing old with apprehension or even a sense of deep loss. A new perspective may help you stay healthy as you age.

Relationships

How to Spot Pursuer-Distancer Dynamics in Your Relationship

Loren Soeiro, Ph.D. ABPP on May 3, 2023

Do people pull away from you as you try to grow closer to them? Or do people close to you demand more intimacy than you can give? Here's what might be going on.

Do people pull away from you as you try to grow closer to them? Or do people close to you demand more intimacy than you can give? Here's what might be going on.

Depression

How to Stay Psychologically Healthy at Any Age

Loren Soeiro, Ph.D. ABPP on March 29, 2023

You can't help growing older, but you might be able to age more happily and with greater psychological health. This is how.

You can't help growing older, but you might be able to age more happily and with greater psychological health. This is how.

Aging

Why You Can’t Imagine How You’ll Feel in the Future

Loren Soeiro, Ph.D. ABPP on February 28, 2023

It's hard for a lot of people to imagine how they'll feel in the future, but making positive predictions could be good for their long-term psychological well-being.

It's hard for a lot of people to imagine how they'll feel in the future, but making positive predictions could be good for their long-term psychological well-being.

Body Image

What’s Wrong With Having the Perfect Body?

Loren Soeiro, Ph.D. ABPP on January 18, 2023

Images of bulked-up, muscular male bodies in the media may damage men's self-image. What can we do to reduce harm from the search for "perfection?"

Images of bulked-up, muscular male bodies in the media may damage men's self-image. What can we do to reduce harm from the search for "perfection?"

Bystander Effect

Is There No Such Thing as a Good Samaritan?

Loren Soeiro, Ph.D. ABPP on December 22, 2022

New research has uncovered surprising information about The "bystander effect," a fixture of popular psychology since the 1964 murder of Kitty Genovese.

New research has uncovered surprising information about The "bystander effect," a fixture of popular psychology since the 1964 murder of Kitty Genovese.

ADHD

4 Ways ADHD Can Mess With Your Relationship

Loren Soeiro, Ph.D. ABPP on November 21, 2022

Does your partner seem extremely forgetful or inattentive? Do you feel like you're always being nagged to get things done? ADHD could be interfering with your relationship.

Does your partner seem extremely forgetful or inattentive? Do you feel like you're always being nagged to get things done? ADHD could be interfering with your relationship.

Resilience

When Happiness Doesn't Last

Loren Soeiro, Ph.D. ABPP on October 26, 2022

What's the best way to find happiness? Most people are going about it the wrong way.

What's the best way to find happiness? Most people are going about it the wrong way.

Relationships

Why “Good Vibes Only” Can Make You Feel So Bad

Loren Soeiro, Ph.D. ABPP on September 28, 2022

Are you trying too hard to stay positive? Take a look at what that might do to you and your closest relationships.

Are you trying too hard to stay positive? Take a look at what that might do to you and your closest relationships.

Emotional Validation

The Dark Side of Staying Positive

Loren Soeiro, Ph.D. ABPP on August 25, 2022

Have you ever felt oppressed by the artificially bright outlook of others—or by your own? Here's the truth behind toxic positivity, and some ideas about how to avoid it.

Have you ever felt oppressed by the artificially bright outlook of others—or by your own? Here's the truth behind toxic positivity, and some ideas about how to avoid it.

Bullying

The Best Way to Stop a Bully

Loren Soeiro, Ph.D. ABPP on July 19, 2022

What kind of person takes the most effective action to stop a bully, or to help out a victim? Anyone who witnesses a bullying incident.

What kind of person takes the most effective action to stop a bully, or to help out a victim? Anyone who witnesses a bullying incident.

Anxiety

Feeling Sick, Tired or Tense? Try "Forest Bathing"

Loren Soeiro, Ph.D. ABPP on June 27, 2022

Have you been unhappy, anxious, or overwhelmed lately? If you live close to a natural area, you may be able to use the Japanese technique of "forest bathing" to feel better.

Have you been unhappy, anxious, or overwhelmed lately? If you live close to a natural area, you may be able to use the Japanese technique of "forest bathing" to feel better.

Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors

Skin Picking? Hair Pulling? That’s Just the Beginning

Loren Soeiro, Ph.D. ABPP on May 27, 2022

Do you habitually pull out your hairs? Pick at your skin? Bite your nails? Body-focused repetitive behaviors like these can be more serious than you think.

Do you habitually pull out your hairs? Pick at your skin? Bite your nails? Body-focused repetitive behaviors like these can be more serious than you think.

Relationships

Red Flags of Breadcrumbing in a Relationship

Loren Soeiro, Ph.D. ABPP on May 11, 2022

Have you ever felt like someone you've met online was leading you on by texting you just often enough to keep you interested?

Have you ever felt like someone you've met online was leading you on by texting you just often enough to keep you interested?

Relationships

Why It's So Dangerous for Men to Ignore Their Emotions

Loren Soeiro, Ph.D. ABPP on April 25, 2022

Have you ever been perplexed by emotions—those of others, or even your own? Here's why this might not be good for you, and why it's more common than you think.

Have you ever been perplexed by emotions—those of others, or even your own? Here's why this might not be good for you, and why it's more common than you think.

Loneliness

Why Feeling Lonely Is a Bigger Problem Than You Think

Loren Soeiro, Ph.D. ABPP on March 2, 2022

The COVID-19 pandemic may have brought with it a second pandemic of loneliness and social isolation. Here's what you can do about it.

The COVID-19 pandemic may have brought with it a second pandemic of loneliness and social isolation. Here's what you can do about it.

ASMR

What Is ASMR All About?

Loren Soeiro, Ph.D. ABPP on January 28, 2022

Have you wondered why so many people are talking about, joking about, or singing the praises of ASMR? Here's what it might mean for you.

Have you wondered why so many people are talking about, joking about, or singing the praises of ASMR? Here's what it might mean for you.

Narcissism

What Can I Do If My Partner Is a Narcissist?

Loren Soeiro, Ph.D. ABPP on December 22, 2021

If you're feeling devalued or disregarded in your romantic relationship, your partner's behavior may result from narcissistic tendencies. Here's how to tell, and what to do next.

If you're feeling devalued or disregarded in your romantic relationship, your partner's behavior may result from narcissistic tendencies. Here's how to tell, and what to do next.

Therapy

The Secret to Fighting Negative Thoughts

Loren Soeiro, Ph.D. ABPP on November 26, 2021

Do you criticize yourself too much? Does it seem like you're always on your own case? Decentering means gaining distance on thoughts like these so you can choose how to respond.

Do you criticize yourself too much? Does it seem like you're always on your own case? Decentering means gaining distance on thoughts like these so you can choose how to respond.

Anxiety

How to Tackle Social Anxiety

Loren Soeiro, Ph.D. ABPP on October 27, 2021

Do you feel excessively self-conscious and uncomfortable in social situations? Here's what's really going on, and what you can do about it.

Do you feel excessively self-conscious and uncomfortable in social situations? Here's what's really going on, and what you can do about it.